Social dilemma

It's been a long time since I've blogged and I'm a little frustrated so, why not start back? Throughout my middle school and high school years I developed into a very reclusive and awkward kid. I didn't want to be noticed and I avoided people for the most part. Outside of the friends I had a trusted that is. But here I am now, a soon to be 23 year old college student and desiring to meet new people and hang out with others and be social...but I feel stuck. I feel like my hands are tied, tied to my responsibilities at church, to work and to school. I have friends but it's a very small group that I hang out with for the most part. I want to spend time with more diverse groups than just "the guys" like always. I'm frustrated that now that I want to be social I can't because of the way my life is now. I feel like I'm fighting my circumstances and that it's hopeless. That I can't change the way things are and I just have to live with it. I want things to be different. Perhaps I should put myself out there more, but I hate the idea of becoming that guy who just tries to get in on everything but isn't really invited! Maybe I'm still hindering myself from meeting people. Or maybe God is trying to do something in my life and I'm not realizing it.